children (divorce and separation)

Helping your children deal with their emotions

Children will react in different ways to the divorce. Some will be angry, hurt or upset, some may show no reaction at all. In families where there has been a great deal of fighting between parents, children may even feel relieved. They need to know that this is normal. Below we look at the common emotions children might experience and how you can help support them through this time.

Talking to your children about the divorce

Once you and your partner have decided to split up, you need to plan how you will tell your children.

If possible, it is best if both of you can talk to your children together. However, this is only appropriate if you are able to manage your feelings and opinions about the divorce or separation.

It may be that you both have different opinions about why things did not work out or be in different stages of the emotional process. If talking to children together is going to create more tension, have separate discussions.